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Comment on Proposed Amendments to Arizona Rules of Family Law Procedure by Carol Panaggio

Carol Panaggio — Thu, 03 Mar 2011 06:22:29 +0000

My ex & I got divorced almost a yr. ago. Because it is a community property state, he got over 1/2 of my retirement & other investments outright. I am o.k. with that, but I got the house which I refinanced in my name & I pay the mortgage & the upkeep. He did not want the house or the responsibility. We paid $228,000.00 for it in 2009, with $40,000.00 down payment. Well as you know the housing market is way down. I don’t intend to sell it, but I’ll never get what we paid for it. He thinks he is entitled to $15,000.00 from the downpayment. The court awarded it to him, but in order for me to pay it
to him, I would have to go in debt further.
I am 61 yrs. old, & trying to build my retirement back up. He is 55 yrs. old & in good health. He moved back east somewhere to be closer to his family so he could mooch off them. I heard last week that he has gone back to school, for what I don’t know. All I know is that we were married for 20 yrs. & I was the main supporter. There were many yrs. that he didn’t have a job, & now he expects me to support his new adventure? I want to find out if there is anything I can do to amend the decree so that I don’t have to pay him an additional $15,000? I am not in the best of health. I’ve had a total knee replacement, surgery for a torn rotator cuff, & I almost died 6 yrs. ago because of a perferated ulcer. I suffer from osteoarthritis, & just pray that I am able to continue to work until I reach full retirement age, which for me is 67. He has no one to take care of except himself, no responsibilities whatsoever. Someone please help me. There has to be a way I can get this amended so I don’t owe him any more money. I would appreciate some feed back on this issue.
Thanks in advance,
Carol J. Panaggio
We were maqrried for 20 yrs. he wanted the diorce, he is 5 yrs younger than me. I am 61 yrs. old & nurse. Over the last 20 yrs. I

Comment on Man Claiming Stolen Sperm Ordered To Double Child Support by LASIS_BLOG

LASIS_BLOG — Mon, 28 Feb 2011 17:09:55 +0000

New York Law School's legal reporting blog recently published a piece analyzing the legality behind this crazy story (and whether the poor guy is actually liable for child support): http://www.lasisblog.com/2011/02/26/man-receives-oral-sex-ordered-to-pay-child-support/

Comment on Pyeatte Distinguised — Student Loans, Earning Potential & Divorce by Making a Will

Making a Will — Fri, 03 Dec 2010 07:01:57 +0000

I’m not so sure about this, admittedly it is a community debt but still.

Comment on Nirenstein Garnice Soderquist PLC Sponsors MCBA Race Judicata by Angela Sanders

Angela Sanders — Tue, 12 Oct 2010 01:45:13 +0000

Hi, Let me congratulate you for maintaining such a wonderful blog: http://www.azfamilylawblog.com/

Comment on Parental Alienation by Annette

Annette — Wed, 06 Oct 2010 16:12:43 +0000

I agree with Mr. Jeffries. In my own experience, we are combatting PAS – a situation which is being inflicted on the children by their mother. Their mother is the primary custodial parent, while their father has joint legal custody and a parenting time agreement that is constantly violated by the children’s mother. Their mother, we suspect, has BPD, or Borderline Personality Disorder. She uses the children as pawns to get back at their father for the marriage’s falling apart and resulting in divorce. A marriage which fell apart due to her infidelity. Infidelity she committed because she has a deep-seeded fear of abandonment causing her to seek out attention the only way she knows how – negatively – and also causing her to push people away first before they take what she believed to be imminent steps to push her away. She perceives danger where there is none for the sake of attention and drama, and thrives off of conflict. She is trying to brainwash the children into believing their father is “all bad” because she believes him to be “all bad.”
The hardest part of being a parent dealing with PAS is to learn how to talk to the kids so that they are encouraged to think for themselves even at the young ages they are. It’s also hard to teach them to see through their mother’s opinions of their father, while not badmouthing their mother.
In my experience, the parents committing PAS are often the abusers, and the parents being targeted are helpless victims, unaided by a court system that doesn’t recognize PAS or BPD as official forms of mental and emotional abuse or as clinically defined mental illnesses.

Comment on Parental Alienation by Annette

Annette — Wed, 06 Oct 2010 16:09:18 +0000

I agree with Mr. Jeffries. In my own experience, we are combatting PAS – a situation which is being inflicted on the children by their mother. Their mother, we suspect, has BPD, or Borderline Personality Disorder. She uses the children as pawns to get back at their father for the marriage falling apart. A marriage which fell apart due to her infidelity. Infidelity she committed because she has a deep-seeded fear of abandonment causing her to seek out attention the only way she knows how – negatively – and also causing her to push people away first before they take what she believed to be imminent steps to push her away. She perceives danger where there is none, and thrives off of conflict. She is trying to brainwash the children into believing their father is “all bad” because she believes him to be “all bad.”
The hardest part as a step-parent when dealing with PAS is to learn how to talk to the kids so that they are encouraged to think for themselves even at the young ages they are. It’s also hard to teach them to see through their mother’s opinions of their father, while not badmouthing their mother.
In my experience, the parents committing PAS are often the abusers, and the parents being targeted are helpless victims, unaided by a court system that doesn’t recognize PAS or BPD as official forms of mental and emotional abuse or as clinically defined mental illnesses.

Comment on Divorcing Spouses Quit Facebook by Mia Carmel West

Mia Carmel West — Tue, 28 Sep 2010 22:25:38 +0000

Facebook is a totally unnecessary tool but since lots of social interaction occur online nowadays, it does seem reasonable that a lot of people are placing stipulations on how to manage their FB accounts. Just shows that people should play it smart during and after divorce with the use of social networking sites. In fact, spying on your spouse's account if s/he is unaware of the privacy settings of FB is a form of a dirty divorce trick.

Comment on Divorcing Spouses Quit Facebook by D.A.

D.A. — Fri, 24 Sep 2010 07:51:54 +0000

Many divorces come about from social media outlets such as facebook. I am not surprised that the documentation of divorce would have indications as to what can or cannot be shared online.

Comment on Divorce Insurance: Get Unhitched, Get a Payout by advice for divorce

advice for divorce — Fri, 24 Sep 2010 07:48:58 +0000

This is a pretty interesting concept. Too bad a marriage has to fail to benefit from it.

Comment on Recent Legislation by TJ

TJ — Thu, 16 Sep 2010 13:05:01 +0000

Has this bill been put into law yet? Several items in it I would like to bring up in my court case if so.